Learning from Our Parents

As parents we are constantly bombarded with information on how we should discipline our children and how everything we were taught from our own parents was wrong. Regardless if you had great parents or the worst parents ever, we can all learn from our upbringing and incorporate these lessons into our own children’s lives.

Learning from our parents is a great resource that with a little thought can really make a huge impact in how we parent our children. The saying hindsight is always 20/20 is a prefect way to look at the big picture and really learn from others mistakes in your own past or carrying on a tradition that helped shape you into a better person.Family

Remember how things effected you when you were a child. When your dad hit you for stealing money from his glove compartment, did you see things differently? Have you ever stolen again?  Did that one small incident in your life not create a ripple effect throughout the rest of your existence and not effect you at all?

When your grandma smacked you in the face for calling your sister a name, did you learn to treat people with kindness and take their feelings into consideration? Or did you develop a sadistic fascination and become the classroom bully that didn’t have to worry about Grandma finding out when you destroyed others self confidence?

Everyone has a past and how we handle situations in our lives has everything to do with it.

When I was a kid, whenever we would pass by a person begging for change, my dad always gave them a little something. No matter what the situation he would give them something even if it was just a cigarette or a handful of change.

One day he was leaving the grocery store and seen a man that had been begging out front of the store earlier, walking across the street to get into his BMW. He seen this with his own eyes and yet to this day, he stops and still gives his money to the homeless and other people begging that are down on their luck. homeless

Some people may wonder why he would still continue to give his hard earned money to someone who may be a fraud trying to make a BMW payment and what he says to people that ask him that question has shaped the way I think about giving a helping hand to anyone who asks for it.

If they need it and I can help, I will. If they don’t need it and they are a fraud that’s for God to deal with, not me,I’m not going to punish people who really need it on the chance that they are a fake who does not need help.

This is ingrained in me and I have taught my daughter the same lesson which I hope she carries onto her children. What are some of the lessons your family has taught you? Have you passed them onto your children?


  1. Victoria+Sanchez+Cantrell says:

    Great job! I hope the same with my daughter, Issabelle.

  2. I wish I could be 1/2 the parent that my parents were and are to me. I demand respect from my kids and because of it I don’t get interrupted while talking to someone and I don’t get attitude. I watch how kids walk all over the parents now days and it makes me sad.

    • Sometimes I feel the parents that let their kids interrupt them were the ones that were taught kids are to be seen and not heard. Sometimes I think the lesson has the opposite effect. Maybe they are trying to heal their childhood wounds of not being able to express themselves by letting their children be the center of attention all the time. Just a theory:)

  3. There are many more with sad stories then the few out there with bad intentions. I give when I can especially when my son is with me.

  4. What a wonderful post. Even though my husband and I don’t yet have kids (we are going through adoption process) I hope to one day pass this lesson down.

  5. I so agree! Teaching our young ones to be a blessing to others is such a big deal. My parents didn’t teach it to me as well as they should have, but I’m definitely trying with my own. Great post 🙂

    • Thank you Molly! I’m glad to see a different perspective, not learning this from your parents but on your own. Glad to hear you are passing it along to your little ones.

  6. My family was always down our luck when we were kids. Somehow we were still able to help others and that has stuck with me through adulthood. I do not like to see people hurting and will help if I can. I am now teaching my 3 year old this.

  7. I grew up listening to my mom scream alot. I had to work hard to not do this to my kids.

    • Yes sometimes I catch myself letting my temper get the best of me and the guilt I feel brings me back to reality. I hate to repeat mistakes I feel others have made with me as well.

  8. I remember growing up and the children weren’t seen or heard from ordeal. I do not raise my children at all from any of that concept.

    We don’t hit or anything like that as well. I have well mannered and behaved children even despite some having ADD/ADHD.

    • I also remember hearing the children should not be heard ordeal. I definitely don’t raise my daughter that way either. She is a great kid and talks my ear off but I wouldn’t have it any other way. Thanks for reading.

  9. Aimee+Trader says:

    I owe everything I know to being a mother to the greatest mother of all my mom!

  10. Mike Byrd says:

    As a parent of grown children , I find myself picking apart all of the mistakes I made ( and there were many) instead of the good lessons we may have taught along the way. I am very proud of my children and they adults they are today…I give much credit to their mom who was with them much more than I , but I see some of myself in all of them , and most of what I see is good…I am thankful they didn’t inherit many of my bad mistakes , or even better , they learned from them. I resemble the man in this story , and it is nice to see that such a lesson stuck all of these years. All I ever wanted for my kids was for them to be good people , to have more than I did and to live happily. I have a great relationship with them now , I believe all of my short – comings as a parent were forgiven. This was an excellent post and I know it will help many people out there.

  11. As a parent of grown children I can say I relate a lot to this post. We made many mistakes raising our kids…I , myself , still carry a small amount of guilt for bad decisions I made as a parent. I was lucky though…my kids all grew up well , got an education and a solid outlook on life and I could not be more proud of how they all turned out. I think kids are resilient and with a little push in the right direction they will go a long way. I believe even though my kids knew I was making mistakes they also knew I loved them and wanted the best for them. Years later we all have a great relationship and my kids have kids and they are wonderful parents and I take some solace in knowing that good or bad I had some influence in the people they have become.

  12. I double posted…did not think my first went through. My apologies.

    • Yeah my comment moderation throws people off sometimes. Trying keep the spammers out of the comments causes a delay in approval. I could delete one of your comments but I think although they are similar, they both make very good points differently.

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