This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of the #SingleParentsDay Angel Soft Program. All opinions are my own.
Although my blog name is Thirty Something Super Mom, I don’t know if I could swing the whole Single Parent thing. I would make every attempt at doing it right but I can’t say that I would be graceful in my plight or able to keep everything from crumbling around me. I know there are many parents who do everything in their power to avoid being a single parent yet still find themselves in this difficult situation.
There are over 12 million single parent households and eighty four percent are ran by single mother parents while just sixteen percent are ran by single fathers.
While there are many challenges that come with being a single parent, the hardest for me to overcome would be running a household on such a small income, working and taking care of my daughter.
I have never had to have someone besides myself or my husband take care of my daughter while the other one worked but as a single parent you are faced with tough situations like having to place your child in the care of someone else, often times a stranger, while you earn a living.
In 2013 the median income single mother ran families was about $26,000 which is one-third the median income for married couple families at $84,000. Nearly half of single mother households have an annual income less than $25,000 while thirty-nine percent of single dads have an annual family income of $50,000 or more.
These numbers are even more alarming when you take in account that childcare costs make up about 40 percent or more of the state median income for a single mother.
When I think about all of these statistics and realize the real struggle that single parents go through to raise their children right, I have an even greater appreciation for my own mom.
My mom had three children, each one a year older than the next. She had come from a pretty traumatic childhood herself so it wasn’t like she had learned how to do things the right way but at least she had learned what not to do from her own mothers mistakes.
My mom and dad were married pretty young which meant they both still had a lot of growing up to do even though they had children of their own to take care of.
Ultimately their relationship ended in divorce but long before they made it official, they were separated many times. My mom was left to take care of three children all by herself for weeks, months, and even years at a time.
I would like to say that we barely noticed the struggle that my parents faced when trying to raise kids without the proper tools required to do the job but that was just not the case.
I was a miserable child, I always felt like the black sheep of the family and was even called that on occasion. Some people may have been joking but in reality I really didn’t feel like I belonged and I always felt like something was missing from my life.
You can probably guess that I am the girl in the polka dots pictured above by my lack of happiness seen in the photo. Unfortunately that is the best photo I have of all three of us together and the others that I have, I am not smiling in them either.
I didn’t find happiness until I met my husband when I was seventeen and I ultimately got rid of that void I always felt through my relationship with him as well as having my own daughter when I was twenty one.
Through my interactions with my daughter, I am constantly reminded of things that happened in my own childhood and I am able to put things into perspective. I now understand how hard my mom must have had it as a single parent trying to pay the bills, take care of three kids, and not lose her mind while her own life was crumbling around her.
She is a strong, unbreakable, and courageous woman. I am so proud and thankful to have her as my mom. She never quit, she was there for her kids when they needed her no matter how hard it was for her and she refused to give up even though many in her place would have.
I think the biggest impact my childhood has had on me is that I make sure my daughter knows she is loved unconditionally and that I will always be there for her no matter what. My mom has shown that same kind of unconditional love to me and we are closer these days than ever before, she even lives right down the street from me.
I would love to hear your stories about the single parent heroes in your life that you will be celebrating on March 21, National Single Parent’s Day and how they have impacted you, leave a comment below to tell me all about it.