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Discipline at School, Where Do You Stand?

As a parent, I understand the need for discipline and have used many techniques in the past. I have yelled, screamed, taken things away, and given time outs, depending on the situation.

I always try to make sure the punishment fits the crime and that it becomes a learning experience rather than a power trip. I have taught my daughter that if she is good, she gets rewarded, if she is bad, she gets punished.

Seems simple enough to me.

Discipline at School

When I send my daughter to school, I know that it is up to the staff to care for her and since she is very well behaved, I never had to worry about her being disciplined away from home.

Every school has a group of kids that get into trouble regularly, the staff knows who these kids are and involved parents who spend time at their kids schools are also well aware. They frequently roam the halls throughout the day, talk during quiet time and much worse like talk back to the teachers, get into fights, and pick on other kids.

These behavioral issues need to be addressed, they are a distraction from learning and it needs to be stopped.

Teachers have every right to deal with these issues and punish the offenders but how they implement the punishment is directly related to the future behavior of these same offenders.

My daughter is in fifth grade and in her school, much like every other school in America, there are quite a bit of trouble makers who can’t seem to sit still or stay quiet when prompted to.


During lunchtime when the kids get too loud, the staff asks them to quiet down and raise their hand to signal their compliance. Once the kids quiet down with their hands raised, they are able to line up and head out to recess to burn off some energy.

If the children do not quiet down, even if it is just the same repeat offenders causing the ruckus , the entire fifth grade is not allowed to have recess that day. They instead have to sit quietly in the lunchroom until their time is up and head back to class.

There is no accountability for the kids who were the rule breakers causing the trouble and now they get to bring everyone down with them. This is rewarding the rule breakers behavior, misery loves company and now they will not be singled out and they get to hang out with the kids who would have normally been outside having fun. Not to mention these kids may need that time to burn off that energy that is causing them to act out in the first place. 

The good kids are now being taught that it doesn’t matter if you follow the rules and do what you are supposed to do, your behavior will not be rewarded. Instead of giving the kids time to burn off all of the energy on the playground they are now being held inside, angered by the situation, this seems like the perfect recipe to create even more rule breakers.

What are your thoughts on the entire grade being punished because of a group of rule breakers? Have your kids been punished at school for things they have never done? Leave a comment below with your thoughts, I am interested to hear them.







Saturday 13th of February 2016

OK, so I know this was awhile ago but this resonates with me. My daughter is a well behaved individual and I spend time in the class so I see who's the trouble maker. Yesterday the class got in trouble because the one child who struggles with authority decided to start picking on kids and those kids in turn stuck up for each other, as we should TEACH OUR CHILDREN!!!! The noise level got out of control and the teacher kept them all inside for their last 10 minute recess of the day. I was furious!!!! The noise level got out of hand because of a positive situation! Those kids should have been rewarded for showing their support for the students who were being picked on, NOT PUNISHED!!!!! I didn't say anything because I didn't want to question his methods but now as I read your post I have to consider writing an email so those kids who stuck up for each other are rewarded for their behavior! I'm furious all over again because I feel like I should have done something yesterday. I'm proud of the kids who stood up to this notorious bully!!!!


Monday 15th of February 2016

I am happy to hear that what I wrote resonated with you. I get a little ticked off when my daughter who is also a well behaved student gets punished while the kids who are always acting up rarely get punished. I can see your frustration with the situation as well and wish you the best of luck in writing that email! I never understood how teachers think taking recess away is going to do anything other than make kids act up more...they need to burn off that energy. Plus the most obvious point like you had mentioned, they shouldn't all be punished for it!


Thursday 26th of November 2015

This is way closer to reality than you would think. In some places because some boys have been picked on for the way they dress or what they like... they are aloud to share a locker room with girls, you just don't do that!!!


Friday 10th of June 2016

Krystal, it is only in some states, and only under VERY specific circumstances.


Friday 6th of November 2015

My son currently goes to a special education preschool and a UPK( universal pre-k) school. The punishments are given to only the parties involved and it's time outs and also he loses a sticker and doesn't get to choose from a prize box. When he's older I'm sure I will be at the school since he has behavior problems from his ASD and SPD. My son wouldn't understand being punished because of his friends if he didn't do anything wrong.


Friday 6th of November 2015

This, I do not agree with, it's teaching kids that it doesn't matter if you're good or bad, if you work hard or don't work at all, everyone gets treated the same - that is not okay and ironically seems very similar to the same stance our government has taken on some things lately...weird...


Tuesday 3rd of November 2015

I don't think that everyone should be punished because of one person doing something wrong or because of a group doing wrong. I think those that did wrong should be punished. My girls are only 5 and 6, so they haven't gotten in trouble for anything. I wouldn't want them getting in trouble for something someone else did.


Wednesday 4th of November 2015

I agree and I hope it changes soon so that your girls won't have to be treated unfairly.