As parents we are constantly bombarded with information on how we should discipline our children and how everything we were taught from our own parents was wrong. Regardless if you had great parents or the worst parents ever, we can all learn from our upbringing and incorporate these lessons into our own children’s lives.
Learning from our parents is a great resource that with a little thought can really make a huge impact in how we parent our children. The saying hindsight is always 20/20 is a prefect way to look at the big picture and really learn from others mistakes in your own past or carrying on a tradition that helped shape you into a better person.
Remember how things effected you when you were a child. When your dad hit you for stealing money from his glove compartment, did you see things differently? Have you ever stolen again? Did that one small incident in your life not create a ripple effect throughout the rest of your existence and not effect you at all?
When your grandma smacked you in the face for calling your sister a name, did you learn to treat people with kindness and take their feelings into consideration? Or did you develop a sadistic fascination and become the classroom bully that didn’t have to worry about Grandma finding out when you destroyed others self confidence?
Everyone has a past and how we handle situations in our lives has everything to do with it.
When I was a kid, whenever we would pass by a person begging for change, my dad always gave them a little something. No matter what the situation he would give them something even if it was just a cigarette or a handful of change.
One day he was leaving the grocery store and seen a man that had been begging out front of the store earlier, walking across the street to get into his BMW. He seen this with his own eyes and yet to this day, he stops and still gives his money to the homeless and other people begging that are down on their luck.
Some people may wonder why he would still continue to give his hard earned money to someone who may be a fraud trying to make a BMW payment and what he says to people that ask him that question has shaped the way I think about giving a helping hand to anyone who asks for it.
If they need it and I can help, I will. If they don’t need it and they are a fraud that’s for God to deal with, not me,I’m not going to punish people who really need it on the chance that they are a fake who does not need help.
This is ingrained in me and I have taught my daughter the same lesson which I hope she carries onto her children. What are some of the lessons your family has taught you? Have you passed them onto your children?