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My Biggest Struggle as a Parent & Sharing Tips that Got Me Through

Parenting is definitely hard, we are responsible for the well being of our children, making sure that they grow up to become successful adults. That’s a lot of pressure but like I always say, if you are always putting your kids first, you are doing it right.

Although I have found that some parts are definitely harder than others.

I struggle with the ability to let go. Letting my daughter deal with her own consequences. Letting her be sad, angry, or upset.

I always feel like it is my job to fix whatever is wrong. I am struggling to realize that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and I need her to learn lessons from times like these, not solve them for her. That would only rob her of the lessons that follow. Making mistakes and being uncomfortable is a big part of life and it is a huge part of learning how to be a better person.

It is essential that we let our kids make mistakes and feel those not so desirable feelings along the way.

That is an important part of life and we all must experience it in order to learn from our own mistakes in life. As parents, we want to be there for our kids but eventually, they will be on their own so we must prepare them for when that day comes.

Sometimes it can be hard to step back and watch our kids deal with things that make them feel bad without stepping in.

For me, the hardest part is not immediately beating the crap out of the kids that give my daughter a hard time or finding their parents and bashing their heads in for raising such vile little creatures!

I have learned though that, they are not all my battles.

Now don’t get it twisted, if someone lays a hand on her or if she is dealing with constant bullying, I am going to be knocking on some doors ready to throw down but until that happens, I need to work on my ability to let go.

I realize that I am not alone in this struggle.

There are other moms and dads out there that struggle with letting go during the hard times our children go through.

Since I am not alone, I have decided to share some of the most effective tips that have got me through these difficult times.

The number one most important and helpful tool you can use to think clearly during these times is to bounce ideas off of someone else, preferably the other parent.

Having someone to brainstorm ideas with has been key in keeping my crazy in check. My husband can be calm, cool, and collected at the times that I feel like I am slipping out of my own control.

It is also extremely important that you discuss your plan of action away from your kids. They do not need to give input once you know the entire situation and should be left out of further discussions.

Lastly, time is your best friend. If the problem that arises can be left to simmer, it may be best to come back to the problem a little later.

This may help you to think clearly and prevent acting on impulse.

Do you have a hard time letting your children go through hard times without stepping in?

 

Aitza B

Tuesday 16th of January 2018

Th is is a wonderful insight and being aware of your struggles if half the battle. I have so many friends who wish their parents would open their eyes to how they aren't perfect and work towards improving things. I also appreciated that my mom gave the room m independence and grace to make my own mistakes and live my life for myself.

nadalie bardowell

Tuesday 16th of January 2018

Wonderful insight! I can only image how much of a struggle it can be for some parents be show strength in times when their kids are hurting or upset. I am not sure how I will react when it comes time to properly discipline my children.

Katherine

Tuesday 16th of January 2018

Letting is go is definitely a struggle! I have a seven-year-old and the older she gets the more independence she requires. I dread the day she comes home upset because she's been bullied or a boy has broken her heart... it's definitely going to be tough not to put on the boxing gloves! And totally agree on time being a healer, our initial response is often not the right one.